Moving is a major decision for most families regardless you’re moving to a new state or just across the town. You don’t just prepare for it physically. You also need says to mentally prepare your kids and yourself for the big move. You have to pack all your belongings, all your memories and transfer your family to a new place. This does not stop here, your real job starts when you move into the new house. You unpack everything and reorganize. You find out about the local neighborhood, the new school, and the new playground. Everything that you were considered very easy, now has to be done from scratch all over again.
For children, this is a lot harder to digest. They fear losing friends. They take time to adjust to new surroundings. They have trouble sleeping in new beds. While older kids become cranky have severe mood swings and sad. What hurts is that they have cranky parents who are so involved in getting moving quotes that they often neglect the children’s needs.
Here are a few productive ways, parents can make moving a lot easier for their kids.
1. When you break the news
Expect tantrums, mood swings and sad faces from your kids when you announce the moving news to them. You might be thrilled for the new change but your kids might not feel the same. They are unaware of this sudden change and find it unnecessary.
Listen to their feelings and try to explain to them why the move is so important and how it will help them. Help them look at the positive parts. The new playground they will play at, the new school and some new friends too. If your children are too young to understand the entire moving process, show it to them with the help of a stuffed animal. Children grasp concepts when described in a fun way.
2. Help your kid realize what’s in store.
Visit your new house with your child before the moving begins. Don’t surprise them. This sudden moving might appear a shock to them. Take the children to visit the new playground, and their new school beforehand. Stop along the way to purchase fresh produce, introduce them to the local bookstore, library, and even the new pizza place.
3. Together create a storybook about moving
Before you leave the old home, purchase a scrapbook, take your child to the famous or their favorite places, take pictures with them, stick them on the book and add titles as to why that place is important to them. You can start the scrapbook by adding a family picture in the old house.
You can end the books, with places you are hoping to visit in the new hometown. Take pictures of the places you visit, the food you eat and the people you meet. Urge your children to enjoy the process of moving. Together make videos of setting up the house, and every step along the unpacking process. It is tiring, but with a little fun, you can make moving worthwhile.
4. Respect the grief children feel
It’s casual for children to express grief and sorrow for things close to their heart. To be honest, it’s healthy and should be embraced, to help them move on fast.
Take time out, and visit their favorite places in the neighborhood, take pictures at those places, say farewell to their friends and exchange new addresses.
Encourage them to make a moving book in which they can cherish all their memories from the old home.
5. Try to keep your child’s same routine as it was before.
The higher the consistency, the faster your child will adjust to the new environment. To top that off, do not make any drastic changes for a few days. Let them sleep in the crib for as long as they want. When you think your child is ready, introduce them to the toddler’s bed.
6. Set up the children’s rooms first.
Everything in your apartment checklist needs to be double checked when it comes to the children’s room. Involve your children in a fun task while you get busy setting up their room first in the new house. You can decorate your room and kitchen later, but setting up a safe and familiar environment for your child will help them stay in one place and out of the clutter. It will also help them adjust to the new house before you can even imagine.
7. Engage your kids in fun activities at your new house.
- Take them to the playground
- Find a new pizza place
- Buy your kids some new books and maybe a library card too.
- Give your kids some drawing task or empty boxes to create rockets and paper planes while you’re busy with the unpacking.
- Or if you find a group of kids in their age group, introduce them. This will occupy their minds.